My Penis Is Too Small, What Can I Do?

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Economist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz recently found that men search Google for “how to make my penis bigger” more than any other phrase. He also concluded that “The degree of a man’s worry about his genitals is profound...male body insecurity is not far behind female body insecurity.” After all the searching, what can men do to improve penile insecurity?

Is My Penis Below Average Size?

A man’s sense of identity is often defined by his penis. Consider these observations:

  • Another term for the penis is “manhood,” which represents courage, strength, and sexual potency.
  • It is human nature to desire not to be middle of the road, but to excel - we want to literally “stand out” from our fellow man.
  • American popular culture dictates that bigger is better, whether it is houses, automobiles, boats, food portions, breasts, buttocks or penises.
  • The penis dangles in the middle of a man’s body. It is the “center of gravity.”
  • Undoubtedly some of our sexual partners feel that size matters.
  • Regardless of our sexual abilities and prowess, we know that we may be judged and partners may have expectations strictly based on size. 
  • The rather well-endowed, male porn stars have created somewhat of an inferiority complex for your average guy. 

Why Are Men So Hung Up on Penis Size?

Most men think they have a small penis - when in fact they are most likely average or even above the average size. Despite reality, men are constantly searching for easy ways to improve their penis size. They want to believe that there is a pill or herbal supplement that magically makes the penis grow. Reality check: if there were an effective and safe means to increase penile size with a pill, you would know about it already. You can pretty much bet that the multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical companies would be making it.

So What Should Men Do About Penis Size?

The Internet is overrun with male “sexual enhancement” herbal supplements products that claim to increase one’s penis size. They capitalize on male insecurity, which has created a huge market for these products, with hordes of men willing to pay top dollar for products that have misleading claims and are often mislabeled, contaminated and falsely advertised. Unfortunately, such supplements are exempt from the stringent regulatory oversight applied to prescription drugs, which requires reviews of a product’s safety and effectiveness before it goes to market. Don’t waste your money!

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How About Penis Enlargement Surgery?

Penile enlargement surgery is risky, ineffective and certainly not ready for prime time. Some techniques are what I call “sleight of penis” procedures including cutting the suspensory ligaments, disconnecting and moving the attachment of the scrotum to the penile base, and liposuction of the pubic fat pad. These procedures unveil some of the “inner” penis, but do nothing to enhance overall length. Other procedures attempt to “bulk up” the penis by injections of fat, silicone and other tissue grafts. The side effects can include an unsightly, lumpy, discolored, painful and perhaps poorly functioning penis—a far cry from a “proud soldier” and more like a “wounded warrior.” Stay away from penile enlargement surgery!

Can You Make Your Penis Stronger and Harder?

While you can’t make your penis bigger with an herbal supplement, you can make it harder, stronger, and improve your sexual performance by strengthening the muscles that support and control your penis. The Private Gym is the first comprehensive, interactive, follow-along exercise program that strengthens the male pelvic floor muscles.

A clinical trial of the Private Gym is underway with most participants having completed it. Participants had either no or minimal erectile dysfunction and went through the 8-week Private Gym program. They completed 4 weeks of Basic Training, a series of progressive and graduated “Kegel” exercises, and thereafter did 4 weeks of Complete Training using the Private Gym patented resistance equipment.

Results and Comments From The Private Gym Clinical Trails

  • Erectile strength: 75% improved; 25% greatly improved
  • Orgasm intensity: 90% improved
  • Ejaculatory control: 40% improved; 25% greatly improved
  • Ejaculatory force: 75% improved; 12% greatly improved
  • Confidence: 90% improved; 50% greatly improved
  • Sexual pleasure: 60% improved; 38% greatly improved

Comments from the participants included the following:

“I’m more in tune with my body”

“More confidence”

“Increased ejaculate volume”

“Improved sexual experience”

”I’m surprised that muscles affected sex”

“I have increased sexual prowess”

“I get pre-cum for the first time”

“Improved premature ejaculation”

“The resistance made a big difference”

“Saved my marriage”

“Now I understand that it needs exercise like any other body part”

“I feel younger”

“I do it during sex and she orgasms”

“Sex is more fun.”

Conclusions From the Private Gym Clinical Trials

  • Improves ED: Pelvic training using the Private Gym improves erectile and ejaculatory dysfunction in men with mild dysfunction.
  • Improves Function In Men Without ED: Pelvic training using the Private Gym enhances erectile and ejaculatory function in men with normal function, a significant and unprecedented finding.
  • Resistance Accelerates Results: The resistance program expedites the results beyond the capacity of the non-resistance program.
  • Welcomed By Participants: The program was enthusiastically embraced, with many positive comments.
  • Confidence & Self-Assurance: A prevailing finding was that sexual confidence improved dramatically.

For more details about the results of the clinical trial please visit our clinical trial results page.

So, realistically, in the quest for a larger member, the best we can hope for is to accept the endowment given to us by nature and optimize our sexual function by staying fit and keeping our pelvic floor muscles well conditioned. We can’t make it bigger, but we can make it better and cultivate the sexual confidence to overcome penis insecurity.

About the Author

Andrew Siegel, M.D., Urologist, Co-founder of The Private Gym, and author of the highly acclaimed book, Male Pelvic Fitness, Optimizing Your Sexual and Urinary Health.

The Private Gym Program is the first FDA-registered pelvic muscle training system for men. In a four-month clinical trial, 75% of men improved erectile rigidity and 90% reported great improvement in their sexual self-confidence. Learn more about how you can strengthen and maintain these critical muscles at The Private Gym for Men.

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