The Ultimate Small Penis Sex Guide: Positions, Techniques & More

*This article is for information purposes only. It is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice or treatment. Therefore, consult your urologist, physician, or doctor if you have more questions about this topic.

Does size really matter? Does a smaller penis really affect sexual performance and pleasure for your sexual partner?

These are the questions that most men are concerned with when it comes to their dick. But what are the facts?

Here is the truth and it's a fact: most women couldn't care less about how many inches you're packing. A Cosmopolitan readers' survey found that almost 9 in 10 women weren't particularly concerned about their partners' size or shape.

Need more proof? In a study by American Psychological Association (APA) we can clearly see the divide and why penis insecurity only lives in the minds of men:

• 55% of men were satisfied with their size, 66% percent felt their penis was just an average joe.
• 85% of women are satisfied with their partner's penis size.

Genital insecurity (penis anxiety) is a real thing and it can mess with your confidence and ultimately your sexual performance in the bedroom. With so many products to market and a booming industry combined with misinformation on the web here are the top three myths about the average size debunked.

• Myth 1: The average size is 6 inches. Through watching movies and porn, a lot of men believe that their members should be as close to the 6-inch mark as possible. However, research posted in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy states that the mean erect penis length is around 5.1 inches.
• Myth 2: The bigger your shoe size, the bigger the penis. If only it was that simple. Unfortunately, your shoe size has nothing to do with your dick size. A 2002 European study debunked this myth.
• Myth 3: An erect penis is straight. Dr. Andrew Siegel, Co-Founder of the Private Gym and well-renowned urologist describes in his post titled 10 Common Penile “Flaws” You May Have, states perfect symmetry may be desirable, the norm for the erect member is not to be perfectly straight or have the same shape as other men.

Penis Size Matters Most To Men, And Less To Your Partner

As a physical representation of how macho you are, your member is like a badge of honor. Very few men would admit to having a small or micropenis. In fact, in a 2019 study looking at sexually experienced college men, only 1 in 3 reported packing less than 6 inches.

The same study found that men tended to exaggerate lengths because it made them feel more desirable in society.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin intimates says that women rarely get orgasms from deeper penetration because "the majority of the nerve endings in the vagina are in the outer third, closest to the vaginal opening" and vulva.

And here's the kicker...

Most Women Actually Prefer Average Penis Size

Since we attach a lot of importance to how many inches we're packing, we tend to think that women do, too. So, when a guy believes that he isn't endowed enough, it can lead to small penis syndrome aka "penis anxiety."

A study examining women's penis size preferences showed that they preferred average-sized penises for one-night stands. Interestingly, they opted for smaller packages for long-term relationships. Additionally, a study in the British Journal of Urology International (BJUI) found that 8 in 10 women were completely satisfied with what their partner had.

Some men overcome the small penis syndrome when they find out that their small penis significantly gets bigger when they get an erection. These are known as growers.

Are You A Grower Or A Shower?

Your flaccid and erect penis is pretty different. Some penises are relatively big when soft and don't change much when they get hard these penises are known as showers.

What you see is what you get...

On the other hand, some men have noticeably small flaccid penises. However, after stimulation, their penis length and circumference increase considerably. If you fall in this category, you're a grower.

The International Journal Of Impotence Research states that growers add 1.5 inches to their members when they get hard. Such a pleasant surprise to spring on your partner right before penetration.

Speaking of adding inches...

Measuring Penis Length & Girth the Right Way

Men this isn't the time to get creative when it comes to measuring yourself. It might be seductive to cheat and add an extra few, but there is a correct way to measure your penis. It is very likely or probable that you are not measuring your penis the right way or how medical researchers calculate size.

Here's exactly how to properly measure your penis length:

1. With an erection. Place a ruler along the top of the shaft and press it gently into the body at the base. Make sure you press into the pubic fat pad until you feel the pubic bone. This is key to get an accurate measurement.
2. Now, measure from the base to the top of the head.

Here's exactly how to properly measure your penis girth:

1. For these steps start with a soft measuring tape or string with no elasticity. Measure the strip to determine the length.
2. Wrap the tape or string around the widest part of your shaft to determine your girth.
3. Mark or make note of where the string or tape meet and use a ruler to measure the distance from the mark to the end.

Now that you know your package size, how do you stack up against other men in other countries?

WHAT IS THE AVERAGE PENIS SIZE BY COUNTRY?

Numerous studies have been conducted on penis size. Some studies show very little correlation between race and length and width, while other research and evidence demonstrates the average johnson size differs by region and country.

In 2014, The British Journal of Urology International (BJIU) compiled data from 17 prior studies and produced one of the most comprehensive, international studies to date on average (male) member size. The research also addressed the idea that hand size, shoe size, index finger measurements, and other body part dimensions correlate with size. For the most part, the findings were that there was no correlation between those factors and penile dimensions essentially debunking that myth. And the final results according to the BJIU, were the average length of a flaccid penis around the world is 3.61 inches (9.17 cm), and the average length of an erect penis is 5.16 inches (13.1 cm).

Average Erect Penis Size By Country Rank Country cm. inches 1 Congo (Braz) 17.93 7.06 2 Ecuador 17.11 6.74 3 Congo (DRC) 17.33 6.82 4 Ghana 17.31 6.82 5 Colombia 17.03 6.71 6 Venezuela 17.03 6.71 7 Lebanon 16.82 6.62 8 Cameroon 16.67 6.56 9 Iceland 16.51 6.50 10 Sudan 16.47 6.48 11 Jamaica 16.30 6.42 12 Panama 16.27 6.41 13 Nicaragua 16.26 6.40 14 Benin 16.20 6.38 15 Brazil 16.10 6.34 16 Peru 16.03 6.31 17 Puerto Rico 16.01 6.30 18 Haiti 16.01 6.30 19 Georgia 16.00 6.30 20 Dominican Republic 15.99 6.30 21 Burkina Faso 15.89 6.26 22 Czeck Republic 15.89 6.26 23 Denmark 15.89 6.26 24 Senegal 15.89 6.26 25 Gambia 15.88 6.25 26 Netherlands 15.87 6.25 27 Belgium 15.85 6.24 28 Zambia 15.78 6.21 29 Belize 15.75 6.20 30 Italy 15.74 6.20 31 Angola 15.73 6.19 32 Egypt 15.69 6.18 33 Zimbabwe 15.68 6.17 34 Bosnia 15.67 6.17 35 Hungary 15.61 6.15 36 Paraguay 15.53 6.11 37 Nigeria 15.50 6.10 38 Chad 15.39 6.06 39 Central African Republic 15.33 6.04 40 Cuba 15.29 6.02 41 South Africa 15.29 6.02 42 Pakistan 15.25 6.00 43 Cote d'Ivoire 15.22 5.99 44 Slovakia 15.21 5.99 45 Uruguay 15.14 5.96 46 Slovenia 15.13 5.96 47 Mexico 15.10 5.95 48 Palestine 15.08 5.94 49 Morocco 15.03 5.92 50 Bulgaria 15.02 5.91 51 Tunisia 15.01 5.91 52 Costa Rica 15.01 5.91 53 Honduras 15.00 5.91 54 Argentina 14.88 5.86 55 El Salvador 14.88 5.86 56 Sweden 14.88 5.86 57 Serbia 14.87 5.85 58 Croatia 14.77 5.82 59 Albania 14.73 5.80 60 Greece 14.73 5.80 61 Surinam 14.67 5.78 62 Belarus 14.63 5.76 63 Chile 14.59 5.74 64 Iran 14.55 5.73 65 Iraq 14.55 5.73 66 Germany 14.48 5.70 67 Eritrea 14.39 5.67 68 Israel 14.38 5.66 69 Switzerland 14.35 5.65 70 Norway 14.34 5.65 71 Poland 14.29 5.63 72 Algeria 14.19 5.59 73 Austria 14.16 5.58 74 Turkey 14.11 5.56 75 Cape Verde 14.05 5.53 76 New Zealand 13.99 5.51 77 Macedonia 13.98 5.50 78 Ukraine 13.98 5.50 79 United Kingdom 13.97 5.50 80 Canada 13.92 5.48 81 Greenland 13.87 5.46 82 Spain 13.85 5.45 83 Saudi Arabia 13.80 5.43 84 Estonia 13.78 5.43 85 Finland 13.78 5.43 86 Libya 13.74 5.41 87 Azerbaijan 13.72 5.40 88 Afghanistan 13.69 5.39 89 Ethiopia 13.53 5.33 90 France 13.53 5.33 91 Turkmentistan 13.48 5.31 92 Australia 13.31 5.24 93 Armenia 13.22 5.21 94 Russia 13.21 5.20 95 Portugal 13.19 5.19 96 USA 12.90 5.08 97 Ireland 12.78 5.03 98 Mongolia 12.77 5.03 99 Romania 12.73 5.01 100 Yemen 12.72 5.01 101 Korea (North) 11.71 4.60 102 Korea (South) 11.71 4.60 103 Indonesia 11.67 4.59 104 Singapore 11.53 4.54 105 Malaysia 11.49 4.52 106 Vietnam 11.47 4.52 107 Bangladesh 11.20 4.41 108 Hong Kong 11.19 4.41 109 Japan 10.92 4.30 110 China 10.89 4.29 111 Sri Lanka 10.89 4.29 112 Philippines 10.89 4.29 113 Taiwan 10.78 4.24 114 India 10.24 4.03 115 Thailand 10.16 4.00 116 Cambodia 10.04 3.95

The Curious Case Of The Micropenis

A micropenis is diagnosed from birth as a smaller than average penis, less than 3 inches erect (7.6 cm), and chances are you don't have one unless diagnosed as an infant. Only 0.6 percent of men worldwide suffer from this condition according to the Cleveland clinic.

How does a micropenis happen? Typically it's caused when the infant’s body fails to produce enough androgen - a group of hormones that include testosterone and androstenedione basically "male hormones". Micropenises are often treated with either hormone therapy as a child or surgery later in life.

According to research out of Long Island, NY, published in The Scientific World Journal, men with a micropenis can adequately enjoy sexual relations with their partner despite feeling down about their overly small package.

How to Make Your Penis Thicker & Longer Naturally

This thought swirls through every man's mind once in a while. And who can blame them? A few extra inches wouldn't hurt. Other than surgery, which can be expensive, complicated, and dangerous, there is no simple way to dramatically increase the size of your manhood.

That being said, there is good news. Here are a handful of ways to make your penis bigger and thicker naturally and supercharge your sexual performance:

1. Sexercise Your Way To A Harder And Fuller Erection

Because an erection requires blood to enter the penile cavities, you need to improve flow into that area. And one of the best ways to do this is by exercising the pelvic floor muscles (PFM) through sexercise.

Your pelvic muscles are responsible for creating rigid, longer-lasting, and fuller erections. Most men know almost nothing about the pelvic floor muscles, their role in creating and maintaining erections, and how to strengthen them.

What the Doctor says: "PFM training should do the trick."

Dr. Andrew Siegel believes, "PFM training is a slow fix, as it will take several weeks to notice a meaningful difference. After completing a training regimen, the exercises must be maintained because a “use it or lose it” phenomenon will occur if the muscles are not exercised consistently, just as it will for any exercise."

2. Expand The Blood Vessels In Your Manhood

If stronger pelvic muscles don’t help you achieve a fuller erection for better penetration during basic sex positions, try a size and girth program. But don’t confuse these with novelty cheap penile pumps. Medical-grade vacuum erection devices are clinically proven to help expand the capillaries in the penis. When used in combination with other treatments, such as supplements or stretching, some men have seen significant results.

3. Train For The Bedroom

Prepare for sex. Train for sex. Bigger and longer-lasting erections require healthy, strong blood flow. Improve circulation by maintaining a healthy lifestyle avoid smoking and excessive alcohol. Both of these diminish erectile function, can cause erectile dysfunction, and damage your overall health. Maintain a healthy body weight, exercising regularly such as yoga, and going to the gym. Certified sex coach and sexologist Gigi Engel says going to the gym increases the "possibility of better sex". Taking the right sexual health supplements has also shown to be of benefit but please do consult with your doctor beforehand.

4. Manscaping

A well-groomed member might be more seductive to your partner. But most importantly, carefully trimmed pubic hair can make your johnson appear longer and larger. Beware, completely shaving your penis and testicles can be a turnoff in fact, as a sexologist, Engle believes men are manscaping too far there is really nothing creepier than a dude who shaves his entire junk."

5. Avoid Gas Station Pills

Gas station sex pills are dangerous and more importantly, don’t work. They could do more harm than good. Just like there is no herbal supplement that can make you taller, there is no over-the-counter pill that can make your manhood larger it's as simple as that.

How About Penis Enlargement Surgery?

Penile enlargement surgery is risky and often ineffective. Some techniques are what we call “sleight of penis” procedures. They include cutting the suspensory ligaments, disconnecting and moving the attachment of the scrotum to the penile base, and liposuction of the pubic fat pad.

These procedures unveil some of the “inner” penis but do nothing to enhance overall size. Other techniques come with side effects and risks such as injections of fat, silicone, and other tissue grafts. The side effects can sometimes be unsightly, lumpy, discolored, and painful manhood resulting in a poorly functioning penis—a far cry from a “proud soldier” and more like a “wounded warrior.” If you are considering penile enlargement surgery consider the risk vs benefits and always seek professional medical advice and second opinions.

Keep in mind sexual satisfaction can be achieved with any size, there's a variety of sex positions for guys with smaller than average members.

The Best Sex Positions for a Small Penis, According to Experts

Small or average size doesn't matter, you can work wonders between the sheets and have memorable orgasms. Great sex starts with relationships, strong communication, confidence is the key to a better sexual experience.  If you have a small penis, as a general rule, you want to go for any position that facilitates deep penetration. It really comes down to what feels best for you and your partner.

Below, we take you through some of the best alternatives to the missionary position, showing just how you can bring your partner to orgasm even when you're not hung like a horse.

Some of the best sex positions for guys with small packages.

1. The Butterfly

In this position, the woman lies down on the bed or table, then you approach her while standing. Make sure your pelvis is positioned slightly higher than that of the woman, even if it means adjusting with a piece of furniture. Crouch down and penetrate her. Have her slowly lift her legs one at a time, then rest them on your shoulders. Her hips should move up some inches into the air, then support her by cupping her hips or butt.

To make this even tighter, grab her ankles and use pillows under her hips for a better penetration angle and depth. Although it's quite acrobatic, sexologist Engle regards it as one of the best sex positions because it allows easy access to your partner's clit, creating plenty of intense stimulation for you both.

2. X Marks The Spot

This position is a wonderful variation of the butterfly. Have your partner lie down on the table or bed with her pelvis positioned at the same height as yours with both or one leg on your partner's shoulders. Penetrate your partner, allowing her to partly raise her butt and back and each leg in the air. Cross her ankles with both of her feet resting on your chest. Get some leverage by holding onto her shins. Crossing at the ankles makes your partner incredibly tight, especially if you have a small girth. Having both your pelvises at the same height is key to maximizing penetration and depth, making it one of the most enjoyable sex positions.

3. Pile Driver

Another of the positions that mirror the butterfly. Here, the woman lies on her back with each leg swung back over her head, towards the floor. Now, squat over her, directly dipping into her vagina. You can make a slight variation to the pile driver by spreading her legs like eagle wings to maximize penetration. Sex Coach Engle hails this spread eagle variation because it allows for both penetration depth and plenty of clit play and teasing the labia.

4. The X Rated

This position is more like the 69 but your penis is in her vagina instead of her mouth. To achieve deeper penetration with a smaller member, this sex position comes in handy. Lie on your back and your partner on top of you, with her back towards you, straddling you with her legs like in the reverse cowgirl. The lady leans forward all the way and lies on top of your legs with hers forming the letter X around your torso.

5. Tighter Doggy Style

Your partner gets down on her hands and knees. Get down on your knees, entering her from the back which facilitates deep penetration. This is different from the traditional doggy style in that your partner's legs are tightly shut on all fours while your partner rests theirs outside butt and thighs, forming a tighter fit. This version of the doggy-style sex position is great irrespective of size and can be also be brought to another level by stimulating the anus, balls, and deep seduction eye contact. Because both your bodies are angled for more penetration, this allows you to hit her G spot no matter your size. Since it is so near the vaginal entrance, shallow penetrations will also do the trick.

6. The Nirvana

A version of the missionary position, the nirvana is euphoric, to say the least. Your partner lies on her back with you above, legs spread outside hers, making her tighter. Although there's limited depth of penetration, this alternative to missionary position allows for greater clitoral stimulation, resulting in orgasm. A quick tip: Slide your hands under her butt for extra snugness and pleasure..

7. The Slide

Similar to nirvana, this sex position has you lying on your back and your partner on your stomach, face to face. Your legs are tightly closed around hers. Then, your partner slides up and down your body, bringing pleasure to her vulva, clitoris, and glans. This is one of the best sex positions for clitoral stimulation because it doesn't require penetration.

8. The Splitter

In this sex position, your partner lies on her back with you kneeling in front of her, straddling one of her outstretched legs. Lift the other leg in the air and rest it on your shoulders or chest. This position allows you to get deeper penetration, increasing G-spot stimulation. Because it's one of the sex positions that give more access, the splitter makes it easy to pleasure the clitoris nerve endings with your fingers or even a vibrator.

9. The Sofa Brace

In this sex position, both of you get onto your knees positioned behind your partner. Have her drape her body over the edge of the sofa, so she is bent at the hips. With your chest upright or slightly bent over her, you can have great fun. Try this position in other areas around the house, like on the staircase or against the bed. This is one of the best sex positions for guys with small penises because back entry maximizes deeper penetration and your bodies are pressed up against each other, leaving you with the chance to reach down and stroke her clitoris for that explosive orgasm.

10. Reverse Cowgirl (With a Pillow)

Reverse cowgirl (with a pillow) is a sex position that requires you to lie on your back. Your partner sits on top facing away from you. For deeper penetration use a pillow under your hips, the pillow under your back tilts your hips upward. This allows her to grind on you, allowing sufficient clitoral stimulation to send shards of pleasure through those nerve endings. This is also one of the best sex positions for getting unrestricted vaginal penetration.

11. The Hound

This sex position is excellent for penetrating partner deep and is a variation of the well-known doggy style. Your partner kneels and holds the ground while kneeling, and you close behind her. As you enter, she leans over and lowers her chest and forearms for deeper penetration, even for the man with a small package, making it easier to bring your partner to orgasm alternatively this position can be done for anal sex.

The Bottom Line

Having a small package can hurt your ego, but it shouldn't be the end of your sex life. Most of the things playing on your mind and affecting your self-esteem are just misconceptions! What's more important is having confidence and the right technique.